Ramifications

Ramifications are not recognized by either woman or man when that particular mate has a subvert plan of action causes long lasting devastation for mate who has to go on with life alone. This is the case for too many couples in the advent of “Noncommittal” I have interviewed many couples who have been with the same mate for 65 plus years, who continued to state the reason the marriage lasted to the 100 years was the action of kiss and make up was continuous implementation in each of the case I interviewed.

Just recently a woman out nowhere told a man she felt kiss and make up was not in her scope of living. She just wanted her book back that was given to the man and said, “I don’t have to give you any indicators of my decision “in summery she said, “It is not my nature to tell you nothing.” This left the man knocked off his rocker for not being permitted to say what he felt. This left the man stunned that his thoughts and feelings where disregard from the woman who was totally in control of this action.

The women concluded by saying now get friends, rest, and your own space. This was a statement of being uncommitted, selfishness, and inconsideration of a man who has a devotion to this woman. This one of the many scenarios that will be popping in during these moments in our state of non-committal .

Grief Among Children

At one time, children were considered miniature adults, and their behaviors were expected to be modeled as such. Today there is a greater awareness of developmental differences between childhood and other developmental stages in the human life cycle. Differences between the grieving process for children and the grieving process for adults are recognized. It is now believed that the real issue for grieving children is not whether they grieve, but how they exhibit their grief and mourning.

The primary difference between bereaved adults and bereaved children is that intense emotional and behavioral expressions are not continuous in children. A child's grief may appear more intermittent and briefer than that of an adult, but in fact a child's grief usually lasts longer.

The work of mourning in childhood needs to be addressed repeatedly at different developmental and chronological milestones. Because bereavement is a process that continues over time, children will revisit the loss repeatedly, especially during significant life events (e.g., going to camp, graduating from school, marrying, and experiencing the births of their own children). Children must complete the grieving process, eventually achieving resolution of grief.

Although the experience of loss is unique and highly individualized, several factors can influence a child's grief:

·         Age.

·         Personality.

·         Stage of development.

·         Previous experiences with death.

·         Previous relationship with the deceased.

·         Environment.

·         Cause of death.

·         Patterns of interaction and communication within the family.

·         Stability of family life after the loss.

·         How the child's needs for sustained care are met.

·         Availability of opportunities to share and express feelings and memories.

·         Parental styles of coping with stress.

·         Availability of consistent relationships  with other adults.

Children do not react to loss in the same ways as adults and may not display their feelings as openly as adults do. In addition to verbal communication, grieving children may employ play, drama, art, school work, and stories. Bereaved children may not withdraw into preoccupation with thoughts of the deceased person; they often immerse themselves in activities (e.g., they may be sad one minute and then playing outside with friends the next). Families often incorrectly interpret this behavior to mean the child does not really understand or has already gotten over the death. Neither assumption may be true; children's minds protect them from thoughts and feelings that are too powerful for them to handle.

Coping with the Loss

Coping with the loss of a close friend or family member may be one of the hardest challenges that many of us face. When we lose a spouse, sibling or parent our grief can be particularly intense. Loss is understood as a natural part of life, but we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, leading to prolonged periods of sadness or depression. The sadness typically diminishes in intensity as time passes, but grieving is an important process in order to overcome these feelings and continue to embrace the time you had with your loved one.

Everyone reacts differently to death and employs personal coping mechanisms for grief. Research shows that most people can recover from loss on their own through the passage of time if they have social support and healthy habits. It may take months or a year to come to terms with a loss. There is no “normal” time period for someone to grieve. Don’t expect to pass through phases of grief either, as new research suggests that most people do not go through stages as progressive steps.

If your relationship with the deceased was difficult, this will also add another dimension to the grieving process. It may take some time and thought before you are able to look back on the relationship and adjust to the loss.

Human beings are naturally resilient, considering most of us can endure loss and then continue on with our own lives. But some people may struggle with grief for longer periods of time and feel unable to carry out daily activities. Those with severe grief may be experiencing complicated grief. These individuals could benefit from the help of a psychologist or Dr. Nicholas Losito, Ph.D, CISM with a specialization in grief.

 

 

 

A Tale of Despereaux

Emotional Care - Take Your Eyes Off Yourself !

1. Touch each other often. Most people are touch-starved. Holding hands, walking arm in arm and cuddling on the couch are just some of the simple ways to share this very powerful experience.

2. Be respectful of your partner's feelings. If the one you love is dealing with a loss or a disappointment, let him or her know that you are available to talk. Also, letting your partner have the space he or she needs to process feelings is a way of showing that you care.

3. Give small gifts - just because. Being surprised every once in a while helps to keep the romance alive and lets your mate know you think he or she is someone special.

4. Compliment your partner in front of others. Saying nice things about your mate in the presence of friends or associates is one of the most supportive things you can do.

5. Disagree with your partner in a kind and loving way. Never judge or reject your mate's ideas or desires without first considering them. If you have a difference of opinion, that's fine, as long as you express it with kindness.

6. Say "I love you." Actually hearing it is important to many people. Sure, there are many ways you show your love, but actually saying the three little words will reassure your partner.

7. Never ignore your loved one's presence. There is nothing more hurtful than being treated like you don't exist. Even if you're angry at the moment, it's no reason to be rude to the person who loves you. Stop and think what life would be like if your sweetheart wasn't with you.

8. Listen deeply and take in what your partner is saying. Knowing that you are being heard is very nurturing. It is also the best way to heal old wounds and prevent misunderstandings. Paraphrasing what your partner has said is a great way to let him or her know you are tuned in.

9. Speak in a loving tone and remember to smile. Almost half of communication is tonal and a little more than half is visual. Speaking in a sincere and loving tone will let your loved one know you care.

10. If your partner is having a rough time, pull out all the stops. Don't hold back on helping. Having the person you love by your side when things are rocky is a true gift.

Having someone to rely on when the chips are down is one of the best parts of being in a relationship

This is not my nature?

Recently, I had a session with a client, who indicated  a woman he loved disappeared, while he took ill with a recent illness. The client was alone and abandoned by the woman he loved with all his heart, mind, and soul. He called her on several occasions during the illness to visit and provide loving care to him.  He was frustrated upon hearing her voice mail message.  The woman never heard  any of my client's calls of outreach.  He ended up calling  a mutual friend that he thought would speak well on his behalf.   That mutual friend  did not speak well for my client and reported to the client's woman that he was being a bother.   The phone call the mutual friend placed did not go over well with the client's woman at all.

When she found out that he called to relay a message over to her. She completely read  the client the riot act.  The client was completely  responsible for the illness, which was contracted from being "burnt out" from working a lot and lack of support. The woman felt she had nothing to do with the client's illness or was responsible for the client health and wellness at all.   She even did not do anything to provide support, care, and most of all affection my client longed for in his life.  All she could say "It Is Not My Nature." In her summation, she told my client never to call her ever again.  That was the poorest excuse ever spoken to a man that was completely drained in this state of  life.

What was my client to do being alone during a burned out segment in life.  My client placed a lot faith in this woman to provide care to him at this moment in history. This woman made life for my client harder, then it should have been.  This was the hardest moment for my client from a 360 viewpoint.  The most frustrating too, the client's employer was calling for him to return to work two weeks earlier from what the medical director orders were placed into writing. .  He was completely under a medical director care not to return to work until the day prescribed.  I am proud of my client standing up for his health and wellness to the employer.

This woman was not  "Virtuous" at all to my client.  This is an example of a statement recently sent  to me.
"A quiet man is a thinking man. A quiet woman is hatching a plan."  My client was completely unfairly treated by this non virtuous woman, who thought she did not have be virtuousness to my client.  

Is “Sexting” Cheating You Out of Real Intimacy?

There is a good, sound argument for how technology can bring two people together. Countless couples have now met, married, forged unions, and had children as a result of a dating website, a Facebook chat, or a bold text message. Technology has provided a new platform for millions of people to take that first step in a relationship. This has been especially helpful to people who are shy, overworked, or just too exhausted to make a consistent effort to get out and meet someone.

Between smart phones and the Internet, the possibilities for flirtation are now endless. This can be healthy when it comes to keeping the spark alive between a couple, particularly one enduring forced separations. It can also be beneficial to two people first getting to know each other; it’s much easier to ask for a date by text than face-to-face. The so-called “sexting” that takes place between two people getting together can be positive when the flirtation turns into action, i.e. when the text messaged invitation becomes the actual first date. The trouble arises when devices become a substitute for real relating. When it comes to love in the time of technology, there are four elements (what I call the four D’s) that we all should be wary of: Distraction, Disconnection, Desensitization, and Dishonesty.

Distraction
Relationships are hard work. The baggage each person carries with them weighs heavily on the way a couple relates to each other. Caring for someone deeply can trigger old feelings, memories, and fears. The closer things get, the more obstacles we should expect to encounter. Devices are a major distraction from the real challenges that arise in a relationship. Passing time on our Blackberry helps us avoid major issues or problems that are lying right next to us in bed. When the going gets tough, the tough start texting.

This problem is one that has been explored by Dr. Pat Love, the acclaimed author of “The Truth About Love” and “Hot Monogamy,” and it’s one I discussed with her recently when we were recording our upcoming webinar, “Love in the Time of Twitter.” We wanted to explore how interpersonal relationships have been impacted by new media and explore how love can be preserved in the face of such colossal distraction. As Love recently wrote, “Other than breathing we spend more time streaming technology than any other activity … This constant state of stimulation leaves little room for contemplation, mindfulness, and deep intimacy, which are all necessary for maintaining relationships.”

A damaged connection can lead us to start looking for excitement or romance in other places, like Twitter, Facebook, or exes whose numbers are conveniently programmed into our cell phones. This communication doesn’t always lead to deception or infidelity, but the distraction alone inhibits us from repairing the connection we have with our partners. It limits our ability to attune to our partners and be sensitive to their needs and aware of what lights them up. Time spent with devices can keep us from taking the time to talk through problems, resolve arguments, or simply spend time enjoying each other — actions that would rekindle the spark we initially felt in our relationships.

Disconnection
The trouble with much of the flirting we do via email, text, or live chat is that it can be highly impersonal. Many of the examples we’ve seen of “sexting,” from everyone from close friends to high-profile politicians, seem to cross the line from real relating to total fantasy. The trouble is that people often prefer the intoxicating illusion of connection and sense of possibility to the everyday acts of romance that are available to them. As I said before, relationships bring real challenges that we can easily avoid in a cyber world. The deeper we travel into fantasy, the further we drift from what is really important to us, who we really are, and what we really want. We replace a deep and meaningful connection with surface pleasures that fail to fulfill us in the long run.

Desensitization
Technology has the wonderfully destructive ability to tune us out. The outlets for instant gratification have invaded our homes in the form of apps, online shops, games, videos, social media, and more. We rarely have to face our fears on Facebook or feel our anger over a game of Angry Birds. Technology can numb us from pain, but it also numbs us from passion. Any activity we use to cut off negative emotions has the unfortunate effect of diminishing positive emotions as well. This can be particularly taxing on our intimate relationships. If we use the little energy we have left at the end of a day to return emails or surf the Web, think about what we are sacrificing in the way of attunement, affection, passion, and personal exchange.

Dishonesty
One of the most glaring downsides of new media is that, in many relationships, it has bred an environment of deception and distrust. We now not only live in a world where many people think it okay to search through their partner’s cell phone, but a world in which these same people often find something that confirms their suspicions. From flirty texts to secret lives, people have used technology not just to escape but to deceive.

This deception can take place when we withhold information from our partner that we fear will make him or her jealous. It can take place when we substitute the excitement of a secret flirtation for the passion we once felt in our relationship. It can even occur when we deceive ourselves that the relationships we forge and people we meet online are perfect or superior to our imperfect, real-life unions. In this sense, we can use varying degrees of “sexting” as a build-up of ourselves or a way to feel dirty or bad about ourselves. In either case, we are avoiding the truth, preferring an illusion of what could be over what we really have.

The solution to the problem of technology invading our relationships is far from hopeless. In each individual case, one must examine how he or she uses technology and whether or not that use is distancing him or her from a loved one. If it is being used as a distraction, what are we avoiding? If it is being used as a desensitizer, what pain are we not facing? The sentiment may be easier said than done, but it holds true that it is always better to do the hard part, challenge ourselves to get close, and fight to have a satisfying relationship. In this journey, we can use technology to get closer as opposed to moving further away from each other. We can use it to ask sensitive questions about each other’s day, to plan an exciting night together, or to keep connected in a world where one million distractions are always readily available, if not in the ceaseless streaming of gadgets but the never-ending output of our own minds.

Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Unfortunately, it’s a skill that many of us don’t learn, according to psychologist and coach Dana Gionta, Ph.D. We might pick up pointers here and there from experience or through watching others. But for many of us, boundary-building is a relatively new concept and a challenging one.

Having healthy boundaries means “knowing and understanding what your limits are,” Dr. Gionta said.

Below, she offers insight into building better boundaries and maintaining them.

1. Name your limits.

You can’t set good boundaries if you’re unsure of where you stand. So identify your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual limits, Gionta said. Consider what you can tolerate and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed. “Those feelings help us identify what our limits are.”

2. Tune into your feelings.

Gionta has observed two key feelings in others that are red flags or cues that we’re letting go of our boundaries: discomfort and resentment. She suggested thinking of these feelings on a continuum from one to 10. Six to 10 is in the higher zone, she said.

If you’re at the higher end of this continuum, during an interaction or in a situation, Gionta suggested asking yourself, what is causing that? What is it about this interaction, or the person’s expectation that is bothering me?

Resentment usually “comes from being taken advantage of or not appreciated.” It’s often a sign that we’re pushing ourselves either beyond our own limits because we feel guilty (and want to be a good daughter or wife, for instance), or someone else is imposing their expectations, views or values on us, she said.

“When someone acts in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s a cue to us they may be violating or crossing a boundary,” Gionta said.

3. Be direct.

With some people, maintaining healthy boundaries doesn’t require a direct and clear-cut dialogue. Usually, this is the case if people are similar in their communication styles, views, personalities and general approach to life, Gionta said. They’ll “approach each other similarly.”

With others, such as those who have a different personality or cultural background, you’ll need to be more direct about your boundaries. Consider the following example: “one person feels [that] challenging someone’s opinions is a healthy way of communicating,” but to another person this feels disrespectful and tense.

There are other times you might need to be direct. For instance, in a romantic relationship, time can become a boundary issue, Gionta said. Partners might need to talk about how much time they need to maintain their sense of self and how much time to spend together.

4. Give yourself permission.

Fear, guilt and self-doubt are big potential pitfalls, Gionta said. We might fear the other person’s response if we set and enforce our boundaries. We might feel guilty by speaking up or saying no to a family member. Many believe that they should be able to cope with a situation or say yes because they’re a good daughter or son, even though they “feel drained or taken advantage of.” We might wonder if we even deserve to have boundaries in the first place.

Boundaries aren’t just a sign of a healthy relationship; they’re a sign of self-respect. So give yourself the permission to set boundaries and work to preserve them.

5. Practice self-awareness.

Again, boundaries are all about honing in on your feelings and honoring them. If you notice yourself slipping and not sustaining your boundaries, Gionta suggested asking yourself: What’s changed? Consider “What I am doing or [what is] the other person doing?” or “What is the situation eliciting that’s making me resentful or stressed?” Then, mull over your options: “What am I going to do about the situation? What do I have control over?”

6. Consider your past and present.

How you were raised along with your role in your family can become additional obstacles in setting and preserving boundaries. If you held the role of caretaker, you learned to focus on others, letting yourself be drained emotionally or physically, Gionta said. Ignoring your own needs might have become the norm for you.

Also, think about the people you surround yourself with, she said. “Are the relationships reciprocal?” Is there a healthy give and take?

Beyond relationships, your environment might be unhealthy, too. For instance, if your workday is eight hours a day, but your co-workers stay at least 10 to 11, “there’s an implicit expectation to go above and beyond” at work, Gionta said. It can be challenging being the only one or one of a few trying to maintain healthy boundaries, she said. Again, this is where tuning into your feelings and needs and honoring them becomes critical.

7. Make self-care a priority.

Gionta helps her clients make self-care a priority, which also involves giving yourself permission to put yourself first. When we do this, “our need and motivation to set boundaries become stronger,” she said. Self-care also means recognizing the importance of your feelings and honoring them. These feelings serve as “important cues about our wellbeing and about what makes us happy and unhappy.”

Putting yourself first also gives you the “energy, peace of mind and positive outlook to be more present with others and be there” for them.” And “When we’re in a better place, we can be a better wife, mother, husband, co-worker or friend.”

8. Seek support.

If you’re having a hard time with boundaries, “seek some support, whether [that’s a] support group, church, counseling, coaching or good friends.” With friends or family, you can even make “it a priority with each other to practice setting boundaries together [and] hold each other accountable.”

Consider seeking support through resources, too. Gionta likes the following books: The Art of Extreme Self-Care: Transform Your Life One Month at a Time and Boundaries in Marriage (along with several books on boundaries by the same authors).

9. Be assertive.

Of course, we know that it’s not enough to create boundaries; we actually have to follow through. Even though we know intellectually that people aren’t mind readers, we still expect others to know what hurts us, Gionta said. Since they don’t, it’s important to assertively communicate with the other person when they’ve crossed a boundary.

In a respectful way, let the other person know what in particular is bothersome to you and that you can work together to address it, Gionta said.

10. Start small.

Like any new skill, assertively communicating your boundaries takes practice. Gionta suggested starting with a small boundary that isn’t threatening to you, and then incrementally increasing to more challenging boundaries. “Build upon your success, and [at first] try not to take on something that feels overwhelming.”

“Setting boundaries takes courage, practice and support,” Gionta said. And remember that it’s a skill you can master.

A Rebuilding of Healing.

“For many people, an affair is deeply traumatizing [and] some marriages can’t recover from it,” said Jason Seidel, PsyD, founder and director of The Colorado Center for Clinical Excellence in Denver. But if you decide to work on your relationship post-affair, you must accept a hard truth: Another affair can happen. This is the paradox of healing, Seidel said.

Often, partners who’ve been cheated on will demand full access to their spouse’s email, cell phone records, Facebook and other accounts (or they’ll sneak around to get the access), he said. They see this as legitimate and essential to helping reestablish trust in the relationship. A common belief is “How could I ever trust you again unless you give me full access?”

While this thinking is understandable, it simply doesn’t work.


The real issue, at the core, is self-protection. Partners cling to the idea that if they have all the information and control enough of their partner’s life, they’ll somehow be spared another betrayal, Seidel said. (Some partners also will take this distrust into new relationships, where they automatically doubt the person and almost prepare themselves for infidelity, he said.)

But the reality is that “no amount of access satisfies the need,” and it’s a “false sense of security.” While it might seem contradictory, to fully heal and rebuild your relationship, partners need to relinquish control of their spouse’s behavior.

Clutching to controlling ways only distances you more from your partner and stalls progress. It “undermines your partner’s willingness to own up to their behavior” or feel remorseful or accountable. It creates a counterattack that disrupts healing, Seidel said.

Of course, other work is required, too. “Affairs don’t happen in relationships that are strong to begin with,” Seidel said, who works with couples on a number of issues that plague the relationship. This “may take a tremendous amount of effort.”

One of the key elements of recovering and healing from an affair is to “drop into your grief and grieve the relationship you thought you had.” It also involves “grieving the loss of your naïveté.” The other partner must honor this grieving process and not rush it, he said.

In time, the “wounded partner” also needs to look inward and decide whether they’re able to open their heart to their partner again — and whether they’ll be OK if another betrayal occurs. But this doesn’t mean closing your eyes if you sense your partner is being dishonest or “not working on making amends or really understanding what happened,” he said.

Seidel’s other advice to betrayed partners is to accept that your powers are limited, get clear on your own boundaries and build up resources like social support.

The partners who cheated also have a difficult time post-affair. Unless the affair is done in “a callous and cavalier way,” they often struggle with a “sense of devastation, deep shame and fear.” They lose their sense of self, in part because they didn’t believe that they were the type to commit adultery. The best way to heal and “process these particular emotions may be in individual therapy where the unfaithful partner can sort through them with less defensiveness,” Seidel said.

Again, healing after an affair and rebuilding the relationship requires the effort of both partners, along with the difficult acceptance that ultimately another betrayal could happen, “and if so, where will you be in terms of your resources and your sense of strength to move on?”

Post Relatonship Emotions

There are times in our lives when we may question everything, even ourselves. There are no guarantees about anything in life and all we can do is do our best. Beyond doing our best, everything else is not in our control. Sometimes when things turn bad for us it wears us down and makes us question ourselves and others. That is the very time you must take care of yourself, stay strong, eat healthy because staying healthy helps us mentally, emotionally, and, of course, physically. Sometimes we wonder things like, "How can a significant other ever return into a relationship?", how will I ever get through college, how will I ever have a relationship again is I've lost my true love, etc. We wonder what others will do and what we will do. All I can say is stay strong, do your best, stay healthy, and things will work out. If a relationship is meant to be, it will be. If the love is there a relationship will begin or continue. Love conquers. Love still stands when all else has fallen.

Bereavement Points

Bereavement is commonly known as a section of sorrow from sudden or death with a parent, child, and other close family, and friends. In the advent of all the perils, which have encroached upon our Nation under the title of “Culture of Death” has now brought into the parameters of bereavement employment, relationships, and pets.
Bereavement in general does not always meet up with approving thoughts. One would think bereavement counseling is for “L” loser. A loser would be the one who does not seek out the proper care of his/her life. In the results can lead to one of the other levels of why one can suffer from torment depression. This torment depression can also lead to lack of performance in employment settings, decrease in expressing feelings to your spouse’s/fiancées, and having your kitty or puppy bit you.
Bereavement support is ever necessary to readjust to become the person one is to be prior to the death (human/pet), divorce, and work. Without having the proper directional support in one’s life can become very miserable, along with thoughts of doom/gloom, poor me, and what happened. Of course there are many other thoughts, which will martialize during the moment of grief/sorrow.
Bereavement can become a painless and comforting moment in 12 month period. Bereavement is the time where one can heal from all the trauma of the eventful loss.
I am not saying that your hurt and pains will not continue to linger. To have lingering moments, where one could wake up in a cold sweat not have their loved one and or four legged family member near them. The best element of bereavement is just speaking what you are feeling to release all the important thoughts out to a counselor that will direct one back into a stable balance of life.
Very important to contact Dr. Losito, when there is a loss of both human and pet life, relationships, and employment.

Take Your Eyes Off Yourself!!!!

What I have noticed from speaking to young couples in one way or another there is a one out the two who have taken their eyes off themselves to palace their eyes on the other. Then for another reason the other continues to keep their eyes on themselves. That is truly a sign there will be a hidden agenda is brewing, which mean the person who is will totally for the other will become a victim in the relationship.
Each time I continue to meet with a person in every session “Take your eyes off yourself to become a more effective member of your relationship” I am happy when those take my advice to become a Servant of servant to your mate. Although, it saddens me to hear how the person who has taken his/her eyes off have been hurt by the actions, which has cause mille of hurts.

I continue to emphasize take your eyes off yourselves to develop a stronger relationship to last until both of you come to the final analysis of life.

Imminent Change

What I have learned from Relationships from couples who have been celebrating their 50 plus celebrations of marriage continued to say the re-enforcement in their long Gevity together was continuous forgiveness. Actually, they called it “Kiss and make-up” this is a good term to continue to use in our modern era.

It does not make sense when a particular couple can not achieve forgiveness in their lives. When forgiveness is not achieved it is when a particular male or female has a hidden agenda brewing within their minds some particular reason they can not grant forgiveness or as the elders would say “Kiss and make-up” to their prospective mate.

What I have come to learn from counseling men who have come to me for support during a moment in their lives. The men continue to tell me is their female counterparts are in an isolation mode with a sterile statement “I prefer no contact” as this statement has a lot ambiguity in it. The men are totally irate when they hear this statement. The reason the men are irate is the women counterparts do not have any answers for them. This leads me to believe there is truly a major hidden agenda involved in the women’s lives. And, women refuse to say anything to men not to give more information to men then needed. This is a very sad moment for the men.

All the more the female counterpart could use some relationship counseling as their male counterparts. The only way the women will come into a relationship session is when they feel deep down in their hearts, minds, and souls a change is imminent for them to provide.

Let us pray for an imminent change for these couples to become forgiving, loyal, compassionate, understanding, accepting and loving to each other continuously

Ramifications

Ramifications are not recognized by either woman or man when that particular mate has a subvert plan of action causes long lasting devastation for mate who has to go on with life alone. This is the case for too many couples in the advent of “Noncommittal” I have interviewed many couples who have been with the same mate for 65 plus years that continued to state the reason the marriage lasted to the 100 years was the action of kiss and make up was continuous implementation in each of the case I interviewed.
Just recently a woman out nowhere told a man she felt kiss and make up was not in her scope of living. She just wanted her book back that was given to the man and said, “I don’t have to give you any indicators of my decision “in summery she said, “It is not my nature to tell you nothing.” This left the man knocked off his rocker for not being permitted to say what he felt. This left the man stunned that his thoughts and feelings where disregard from the woman who was totally in control of this action.
The women concluded by saying now get friends, rest, and your own space. This was a statement of being uncommitted, selfishness, and inconsideration of a man who has a devotion to this woman. This is one of the many scenarios that will be popping in during these moments in our state of non-committal .

Faith in a Relationship

To keep a relationship strong , re-enforced, and to have longevity, there are many points one needs to consider when, that relationship rings a bell in both of your anatomy’s. First is both of you must develop a strong mutual foundations even though both of you may differ on a few topics in life.

Find a medium base for this will keep the foundations strong. In this fashion no one will hit a point, which is unknown, unfavored unvetted both of you. Both of you can engage each other without hitting a sour note allowing room for mutual growth and for favorite events such as; preparing meals together, camping, hiking, and all other nifty fun things speaking about other points of interests.

All the relationships are not truly perfect, which is reason for both of you to continue developing a good ethic of standing by each other when an unsteady moment arises. This is where faith and patience’s plays a key role in keeping your relationship re-enforced. Especially, for the man who pursues some agenda does not have a rhythm or a reason to it, as it may have some falsities, which the woman perceives a non-resonating for her. Take time to listen to what she has to say then, build your foundations from what she continues to indicate in each of her dialogues. Clearly, this Yes having faith, patience, and determination will cause a relationship go on until the final analysis of life for both of you. When the man allows “Patience and Understanding” into the picture, I believe he man will be much happier, when he redirects what he envisions for the relationship upon the mutually shared vision.

This is what you can call “Embracement .” The embracement pulls each of you together. Both of you will feel strength flow all around you from side to side. This delightful feeling will fill you with happiness, strength, and ease. Most importantly never give up on both of your thoughts and feelings, which originally brought you both together.

Allow the Divine Nature to be in your Relationship

To fully understand a couple or significant friends one must sincerely slow down, take time, and truly understand and convey the Love one has to offer. Too many times, which is sad, couples and yes even significant friends are encouraged to look into the acts of kindness, which is being done for them as a sign of Excellent Care, instead as of a hidden agenda, strings, or something else. This action is looked upon as act of "Act of Reciprocation." The act of reciprocation does not weight to heavy upon the particular man or woman who does not want to return or accept anything as it will eventually be a cost factor to them in one or another. Again the modernists have done a great injustice to how God designed a relationship to function and play out. These few thoughts, into a new dimension of re-evaluation of how to continue to be "Excellent" to the one who is being care and loved.

When Love is created by the Divine Nature allow the Divine Nature to transcend naturally without having to keep the act of Love hidden away until the right moment. The Act of Love is a natural flow of actions one does in course of the relationship to show how much the person means to them. One who loves does not know anything else to show and do acts of random Love, Care, and Kindness. That is very appropriate in a Relationship of Love with desires to expand when that moment is preordained by the Divine Nature.

Allow Love of the Divine Nature to become part of your lives more fully and readily at all moments in your Special Relationship. For heaven sake please don't allow the modernist to interfere with treating your mate "Excellent" and imparting care and compassion love upon either your man or woman. Most importantly, is to pray with your mate asking the Divine Nature to keep each of you true to yourselves and to each other with His Natural methods. And, lastly, allow the act of Love to become part of both of your lives without putting boundaries between you and your loved.