What Can I Do if My Grief Won't Go Away?

If grief continues and causes a prolonged and deep depression with physical symptoms such as poor sleep, loss of appetite, weight loss, and even thoughts of suicide, you may have a condition known as complicated bereavement. Talk with your doctor as soon as possible. For Added Support Dr. Losito can provide support through Skype. Dr. Losito's can be contact at mentalhealthguy  Sometimes, a major depression can develop along with the normal feelings of loss or sadness linked with grief. Whereas normal sadness as part of a grief reaction may subside after several months, major depression is a medical disorder that is different from normal grief, can occur at any time (even in the immediate aftermath of a death of loss), and requires treatment to be resolved.

Bereavement And Funerals

Because of our belief not only in the immortality of the soul, but also in the resurrection of the body, the Church professes hope in the face of death, and acts with charity in the funeral rites. The Church provides a number of prayers for the faithful to offer both to accompany the dying of a loved one and to strengthen our faith upon their death. Through private prayer and public funeral rites, we strengthen our faith and hope, comfort those who mourn, and bury the bodily remains of the deceased with care befitting what was the Temple of the Holy Spirit.

The following excerpts are taken from the General Introduction of the Order of Christian Funerals:

4. At the death of a Christian, whose life of faith was begun in the waters of baptism and strengthened at the Eucharistic table, the Church intercedes on behalf of the deceased because of its confident belief that death is not the end nor does it break the bonds forged in life. The Church also ministers to the sorrowing and consoles them in the funeral rites with the comforting word of God and the sacrament of the eucharist.

5. Christians celebrate the funeral rites to offer worship, praise, and thanksgiving to God for the gift of a life which has now been returned to God, the author of life and the hope of the just. The Mass, the memorial of Christ's death and resurrection, is the principal celebration of the Christian funeral.

6. The Church through its funeral rites commends the dead to God's merciful love and pleads for the forgiveness of their sins. At the funeral rites, especially at the celebration of the eucharistic sacrifice, the Christian community affirms and expresses the union of the Church on earth with the Church in heaven in the one great communion of saints. Though separated from the living, the dead are still at one with the community of believers on earth and benefit from their prayers and intercession. At the rite of final commendation and farewell, the community acknowledges the reality of separation and commends the deceased to God. In this way it recognizes the spiritual bond that still exists between the living and the dead and proclaims its belief that all the faithful will be raised up and reunited in the new heavens and a new earth, where death will be no more.

"The Church earnestly recommends that the pious custom of burying the bodies of the deceased be observed; nevertheless, the Church does not prohibit cremation unless it was chosen for reasons contrary to Christian doctrine" (canon 1176.3).

Canon 1176 from the Code of Canon Law states, "Deceased members of the Christian faithful must be given ecclesiastical funerals according to the norm of law." Others who are eligible for an ecclesiastical funeral include:

§  Catechumens

§  Children whom the parents intended to baptize but who died before baptism, and

§  "In the prudent judgment of the local ordinary, ecclesiastical funerals can be granted to baptized persons who are enrolled in a non-Catholic Church or ecclesial community unless their intention is evidently to the contrary and provided that their own minister is not available" (canon 1183.3).

While the Church continues to hold a preference for corporeal burial, cremation has become part of Catholic practice in the United States and the around the world.

The Church's reverence and care for the body grows out of a reverence and concern for the person whom the Church now commends to the care of God. This is the body once washed in baptism, anointed with the oil of salvation, and fed with the bread of life. This is the body whose hands clothed the poor and embraced the sorrowing. The human body is so inextricably associated with the human person that it is hard to think of a human person apart from his or her body.

In April 1997, the Holy See granted an indult for the United States to allow the diocesan bishop to permit the presence of the cremated remains of a body at a Funeral Mass. Later that year, they confirmed the special texts and ritual directives, which were then published as an appendix to the Order of Christian Funerals.

However, the Order of Christian Funerals' Appendix on Cremation states: "Although cremation is now permitted by the Church, it does not enjoy the same value as burial of the body.The Church clearly prefers and urges that the body of the deceased be present for the funeral rites, since the presence of the human body better expresses the values which the Church affirms in those rites" (no. 413).

The growing interest in and desire for cremation continues to remain a question in the minds of many Catholics. Resources on this website are available to help better explain and deepen the Catholic understanding of cremation as an option for the final disposition of the body.

Reaching Out

When to Refer for Medical Treatment

When Grief develops into clinical depression one (1) and family does not know to pinpoint
the Symptoms accurately. For this reason the symptoms and the psychological aspects have been out lined for your education and understanding for this diagnose.

Signs and Symptoms:

Early morning awaking

Serious Weight Loss

Anhedonia:

"The loss of joy," is defined as a lack of the feelings of enjoyment or accomplishment that typically accompany pleasurable events such as socializing with friends, eating a good meal and sex. An individual who is experiencing Anhedonia may no longer feel a desire to go to work, attend classes, manage their health, interact with other people, or engage in hobbies or entertainment. Anhedonia is a common symptom of mood disorders such as major depressive disorder or dysthymic disorder, but it can also be experienced independent from a diagnosed mental health condition. -

Agitation: The Causes

Agitation can come on suddenly or over time. It can last for just a few minutes, or for weeks or even months. Pain, stress, and fever can all increase agitation.
Agitation by itself may not be a sign of a health problem. However, if other symptoms occur, it can be a sign of disease.  Agitation  with a change in alertness (altered consciousness) can be a sign of delirium. Delirium has a medical cause and should be checked by a health care provider right away.
 
Causes

There are many causes of agitation, some of which include:

• Alcohol intoxication or withdrawal
• Allergic reaction
• Caffeine intoxication
• Certain forms of heart, lung, liver, or kidney disease
• Intoxication or withdrawal from drugs of abuse (such as cocaine, marijuana, hallucinogens, PCP, or opiates)
• Hospitalization (older adults often have delirium while in the hospital)
• Hyperthyroidism (overactive thyroid gland)
• Infection (especially in elderly people)
• Nicotine withdrawal
• Poisoning (for example, carbon monoxide poisoning)
• Theophylline, amphetamines, steroids, and certain other medicines
• Trauma
• Vitamin B6 deficiency

Agitation can occur with brain and mental health disorders, such as:

• Anxiety
• Dementia (such as Alzheimer's disease)
• Depression
• Mania
• Schizophrenia

Pleasant Words

No Worse Enemy.

No worse enemy .. the friend who deserts you when you need them the Most...

 

Emotional Care - Take Your Eyes Off Yourself !

1. Touch each other often. Most people are touch-starved. Holding hands, walking arm in arm and cuddling on the couch are just some of the simple ways to share this very powerful experience.

2. Be respectful of your partner's feelings. If the one you love is dealing with a loss or a disappointment, let him or her know that you are available to talk. Also, letting your partner have the space he or she needs to process feelings is a way of showing that you care.

3. Give small gifts - just because. Being surprised every once in a while helps to keep the romance alive and lets your mate know you think he or she is someone special.

4. Compliment your partner in front of others. Saying nice things about your mate in the presence of friends or associates is one of the most supportive things you can do.

5. Disagree with your partner in a kind and loving way. Never judge or reject your mate's ideas or desires without first considering them. If you have a difference of opinion, that's fine, as long as you express it with kindness.

6. Say "I love you." Actually hearing it is important to many people. Sure, there are many ways you show your love, but actually saying the three little words will reassure your partner.

7. Never ignore your loved one's presence. There is nothing more hurtful than being treated like you don't exist. Even if you're angry at the moment, it's no reason to be rude to the person who loves you. Stop and think what life would be like if your sweetheart wasn't with you.

8. Listen deeply and take in what your partner is saying. Knowing that you are being heard is very nurturing. It is also the best way to heal old wounds and prevent misunderstandings. Paraphrasing what your partner has said is a great way to let him or her know you are tuned in.

9. Speak in a loving tone and remember to smile. Almost half of communication is tonal and a little more than half is visual. Speaking in a sincere and loving tone will let your loved one know you care.

10. If your partner is having a rough time, pull out all the stops. Don't hold back on helping. Having the person you love by your side when things are rocky is a true gift.

Having someone to rely on when the chips are down is one of the best parts of being in a relationship

Bereavement

Bereavement is defined as a state of sadness or loneliness. An individual is in a state of bereavement when that person experiences loss of another person. The loss could be due to relationship breakups, death, loss of pets, someone moving away forever, divorce for instance, loss of employment, etc. thus, the cause for bereavement might be different for each person. Bereavement behaviors are loneliness, anger, guilt, numbness, shock, agitation, etc. Bereavement grief means a package of emotions related with the loss of an individual. Researchers oftentimes pertain to bereavement behavior as grief cycle. After an extensive research of over four decades and still continuing, researchers have discovered some usual demeanors observed in persons in mourning. When an individual is undergoing through this grief, the person observes behaviors such as crying, insomnia, restlessness and withdrawal. But the most commonly observed behaviors are denial and shock. Bereavement grief is almost just a part of each person's life. This kind of grief has a large extent of effects, and the density in which an individual could be affected vary from one person to another. There are 2 kinds of bereavement grief. The first one is complicated and the other is a normal grief. When a person is suffering from a complicated grief he or she sometimes may attempt to kill him/herself. Most persons typically fall helpless prey to complicated bereavement grief due to a sudden shock. On the other hand, normal bereavement grief is commonly accepted for a person.Mourning has a despair and disorganization behavior, where someone is crying and grieving due to being away from a person or due to loss of a loved one. Bereavement behavior not just affects a person mentally, but it also causes risky and dangerous effects on one's healthy life and well being. Heavy symptoms of breathing problems and abdominal pain are observed even after six months of an event that has happened. Volatile reactions are always observed in individuals who feel that their social image or their identity is being affected. Changeable reactions may cause people to get easily frustrated, harbor jealousy and hatred with other persons. They have a natural tendency to feel they are helpless, and this hurts a lot; feeling furious is also commonly frequent in them. Reorganization is observed on this kind of behavior when a person or something is lost without their fault or without the individual being dead. Also, some bereaved people can't realize the reality because of the feeling of shock and denial, and a feeling of being unreal is very common. People aren't able to accept the facts, or reality which has happened in them. Oftentimes, they are afflicted with depersonalization and anaesthetizing of effect. Fortunately, you don't need to pay a large amount of money or go to any doctor for the remedy. You yourself are enough to come out of it of this condition. And, you are not able accomplish this alone you can certainly contact Hand of Passion at 877 867 8556 for immediate attention.