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5 Regrets of Dying

I’ve always been interested in the wisdom of our elders and often do a practice with students and clients when they’ve seemed to veer off the path of what truly matters in their lives. I ask them to project themselves forward many years from now looking back onto this very moment right now, what do they wish they would’ve done? Bonnie Ware is an Australian Nurse who spent many years working in palliative care caring for those who were dying. She eventually published a book called  The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Regrets can be seen as something that’s good if they give us insight into what we can change today for the better. Here are the Top 5. Use them as north star to help guide your actions in the days that follow toward an even more fulfilling life. Although we can veer off the path, when we notice the star, we can always come back to it.
Top 5 Regrets of the Dying:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. From the time we’re born we’re looking to our parents to teach us the rules of this world and to guide our expectations about how we should or shouldn’t act. Looking to our culture or other people to guide how we should dress, speak, act, and even what kind of profession we should be in is common. What would it look like to get in touch with what seems right to you and live an authentic life?
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.  As the saying goes, no one ever kicked themselves on their deathbeds for missing a day of work. Sometimes we work too much out of routine, other times from other people’s expectations and sometimes as an addictive behavior to avoid discomfort. Are there things that may be more valuable to pay attention to where we can loosen up on working so hard and pay attention to things that nourish us more?
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.  Whether it’s at work, in a friendship or a partnership we make the snap judgment to bite our tongue rather than being assertive. Standing in an authentic life means becoming aware of and expressing our feelings. This may be a missed opportunity to let others know we love them that can create deeper connections or maybe it’s a time when someone hurts us and we stay silent out of fear. Learning how to become more aware of our emotions and express them in a skillful way can help us feel more connected, self-reliant and happy.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.  There’s no question. At the crux of feeling happy and fulfilled in life is having nurturing relationships. There are so many ways to stay connected nowadays through text, chat, email, social media, the phone and of course face to face. How might you make it a priority to make relationships an integral part of your day to day life?
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.  Bronnie Ware said that many people didn’t notice until the end of life that happiness is a choice. With awareness we can make conscious choices about what nourishes us and what depletes us. What beliefs we want to invest in and which ones we don’t. We may get hooked into states of high stress, anxiety, depression and even trauma reactions, but at some point we get to choose how we want to relate to them and this may help us ride them with more grace. Maybe it’s time to play a little more, what makes you happy?

Take a moment to look back once again at these five regrets people have had and see where you can begin integrating these more into your life starting today.
As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

The hook to center of the earth

What can be expected in a relationship in modern days? What I have found out is releasing all the tensions, which can bring unrest into a relationship. One must and is encouraged to release anything which causes unrest to allow the depth of the relationship to transition into a strong, unified, and understanding unity. To have all these components can provide an unending strength, which will have true love among partners, mates, or spouses.
One will ask how all this can happen in a relationship. One must listen and hear what is being said during a daily communication between the man and woman. When certain component is emphasized within the dialogue the hope that particular partner will hear to take action to make the necessary improvements to continue to re-enforce the relationship. When that action takes place all the senses of the man and woman will enhance to elevate the relationship to a million decibels of pure love.
The process: This is when the individual hook is connected to the center of the earth one can have all the discomforts surge right out of your inner core. There is a process one does follow to eliminate all the discomforts in life. Once the process is accomplished each and every moment one is being in an area of discomfort finding a place of silence bring self into state of tranquility that one can proceed with the process of letting that inner hook slowly proceed slowly out oneself giving permission to eliminate all the chaos and crisis right out of your anatomy that will allow one to have a comfort meaning with your spouse and spouse to be. Once one's hook is totally at center of the earth core all the “Unkindness, selfishness, wants, needs, and any other selfish quality with totally jump off the hook right into the recesses of the core of the earth.
The relationship will experience higher transcending meaning between each man and woman. The transcending meaning will bring peace, comfort, and higher quality of nurturing between one and other. With the higher quality of nurturing will develop a real meaning of being for each other. When the couple are totally dedicated to one and other in this capacity the relationship will endure for 50 years plus giving an example to the rest of the culture and even the world. Thus, the relationship will have a new beginning to perpetuation of longevity. With the perpetuation of longevity will allow the blending of the hearts, minds, and souls to the Higher Authority and to each other.

In the final analysis; one will never have to use the statements “I want, I need, and I desire” ever again. For the blending of the two souls will regain a great realignment of a wonderful balance for a perpetuation of life with each other.